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3 Steps to Raise a Resilient Child Who Bounces Back

I am thrilled to be featured in a podcast from Dinner Table MBA. The podcast focuses on how to raise a resilient child who can bounce back.

Resilience is not something we are simply born with. It is something that is learned. On the podcast, I talk about three ways we can help build resilience in our children. I will summarize these three ideas here. 

You can listen to the full podcast, including commentary from Dinner Table MBA, at any of these links: 

For Apple Users

General Podcast Link

Link to Dinner Table MBA’s Full Blog Post 

Positive Thinking

First, we can open up our children’s minds to positive thinking and we can provide opportunities for them to practice. 

When we feel like we are failing at something it is so easy to give up, to be sad, or to believe that we can’t do it. Instead, we can encourage our children to be positive, to let the situation motivate us to choose a different route, and to keep trying.

Through Failure We Grow

We must realize that our children will fail in their lifetimes— plenty of times— even if we try so hard to protect them. When this happens, we can remind them that failure is not all bad. Through failure, we learn. Together with our children, we can talk through a failure and try to find what they may have gained from the situation. There is always something to gain, even if it is simply learning what to do differently the next time.

It is always okay for them to feel sad or to feel emotion when they fail. It is important to process that emotion with them, to allow them to feel it, but then, we can learn.

Coping Skills

Lastly, we want to teach our kids the skills to cope. Tough experiences in life, like loss or grief—a friend moving away, or a death, for example—can also teach resilience when we find ways to cope and move forward. In order to cope or find peace in a difficult situation, we must have coping skills. 

Here are some examples of coping skills we can teach:

  • Using their words to describe feelings
  • Using art to describe their feelings: They can draw a picture which describes how they feel. For older children, you can draw a big circle. Your child can make a pie chart by color-coding their current emotions inside. You can then talk about the emotions they include.
  • Talking to someone they trust when they feel bad
  • Deep breathing—they can close their eyes and focus on their breaths
  • Counting to ten, even backwards if they are a bit older
  • Squeezing a stress ball 
  • Turning negative thoughts into positive thoughts, so instead of saying to themselves, “I will never get through this” they can practice saying, “I will feel better. It will just take time.” 
  • Participating in something they enjoy 

Even adults are still learning about resilience. Sometimes as parents, we can feel we are making mistakes. We can see our mistakes as failures. We can see failure as something bad. Building resilience can be a life-long process, so it’s never to early to start.

Remember, coping does not mean pushing something aside and ignoring it. It means dealing with our feelings in healthy ways and then finding peace or a way to move forward.

Dinner Table MBA is a wonderful resource for parents and children. They inspire parents to have meaningful conversations with their children about important life lessons around the dinner table. These lessons can impact the future of our children in a positive way. Be sure to check them out on their blog, or over on Instagram and Facebook.

To learn more about me and my blog check out: About Lauren

If you enjoyed this post, you may also enjoy: Sometimes Strength Requires a Break or What Does It Mean to Be a Parent

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12 responses to “3 Steps to Raise a Resilient Child Who Bounces Back”

  1. Sandy Esprit says:

    This is so good. I get my 20 month old to use her (very limited) words to get what she wants and I find she cries less.

    • admin says:

      Hi Sandy! That is wonderful! I am so happy you enjoyed the article! I agree with you. I found it very helpful even with my young kiddos!

  2. Sherry M Lee says:

    Building resilience in our children is crucial! I appreciate these 3 ways to support our children. Congratulations for being featured in the Dinner Table MBA podcast!

    • admin says:

      Hi Sherry! Thank you so much for your kind words! I am so glad that you found the article helpful. I totally agree, resilience is such an important skill!

  3. Mike Kawula says:

    I loved your post and we so appreciate you coming on our podcast.
    I always tell my kids to your point here: “Through Failure We Grow”…..That in live you’ll Win or you’ll Learn and if you didn’t win, you’ll never lose if you learn and get back up to try again.

    We so appreciate you! Great content!!!!!!

    • admin says:

      Hi Mike! Thank you so much! I truly appreciate your kind words and for having me as a part of your wonderful podcast. I will continue to share your podcast and website as I feel it is so beneficial for families! I also love your advice here. What wonderful information to share with our kiddos… that they can’t lose if they get back up and try again! I love it!

  4. Nessly says:

    These are a must to teach our children for them to build great character. Great parenting tips. Congratulations for this podcast gig 🙂

    • admin says:

      Hi Nessly! Thank you so much for your kind words! I truly appreciate it. I am so glad you found the tips helpful and beneficial!

  5. Sonja says:

    I love this post, especially the list of ways to help our children cope. My son has amazing preschool teachers who talk about using belly breathing when they need to calm down. I love how it is in terms he understands.

    • admin says:

      Hi Sonja! Thank you so much!! I love the idea of using “belly breathing!” I am going to need to give this a try with my middle child. Great terms which are definitely age appropriate and easy to understand. Thank you so much for sharing!

  6. Kelly Eden says:

    Congratulations on being featured! I’ll have to go check out the podcast. (I’m a little bit addicted to podcasts!!) A great summary too. I find helping kids to think about what’s going well, even on a bad day changes their mindset too.

    • admin says:

      Hi Kelly! Such a great strategy! A great strategy even for us adults! Thank you for your kind words. I love Podcasts too and I loved how Dinner Table MBA put it together!

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Welcome to my blog. I am a licensed school counselor turned stay-at-home mom and writer. I have three wonderful children. I love the water, baking, getting creative, and traveling, especially to new places. I have a bachelor’s degree in science (Psychology major and Sociology minor), and a master’s degree in counselor education (M.Ed.). I wouldn’t call myself a parenting expert exactly, but I believe all parents are experts at raising their own children. After all, no one knows your kids better than you! My blog is about what “they say”—what we hear and read—versus what “we say”: using our own intuition. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.